I have been meaning to talk about this for the longest. This topic is one of my favorites.
So many people may not even realize that they transfer different feelings and emotions unwittingly to others, but we’d focus on fear in this post.
When I was little, my cousins would come over so we could go to the fun park, but my mom is the last person to engage in activities she can’t control. She would go with us and when we were about to go on the roller coaster rides she would say things like, don’t t get on that ride, this is so dangerous. She would always advise we play on the swings because it’s safer. My mom cannot bear the sight of a roller coaster and seeing her get that way whenever we wanted to get on a roller coaster ride, she unknowing passed down her fears to me.
I know this because every time I‘m about to get on one my heart beats really fast like I’m about to die and when I get off I throw up and automatically fall sick. So now it’s God forbid I engage in an activity i have no control over but I’m working on it so I don’t communicate my fears to my kids in a way it’s tattooed on their brains. I would really like their fears to be theirs.
FEAR CAN BE TRANSFERRED!
Most of us, the fears we have today are not ours. I am certain if I grew up in a non African country I would have cats as pets but now when I see those poor creatures I’m casting out demons from them 😭😭. Projection of fear really is constantly allowing someone speak their fears into us. Subconsciously we carry them and they become ours.
So you just got into a relationship and a friend of yours whose relationship ended badly with her partner cheating on her says things like, “you can’t trust these men, they are never faithful”. Like sis!! just because yours ended in tears doesn’t mean mine should end the same way. But most of us don’t get the picture, we allow these fears into our lives and our relationships, thereby second guessing whatever your partner tells you because you automatically think he will cheat! just like that, you allowed your friends fear of cheating men destroy your relationship.
FEAR / DREAM CRUSHERS
You have to be aware of how you allow people‘s fear get to you as it may destroy your life. I’d explain! You really want to start a YouTube channel where you would share a verse in the Bible and you’re letting your friends in on the idea and they laugh and say nobody wants to watch that. You wont make it preaching on the internet because me I won’t even watch that why don’t you do a gossip vlog instead where you could talk about celebrities and their lives that would move market for you. But that’s not what you want to do. You find joy in sharing words from the scripture and automatically you condemn yourself. Now your saying to yourself, maybe she/he is right, people wouldn’t like that, Infact I’m not the best example of a Christian. Just like that your friend has planted the seed of self doubt in you. But how could you blame your friends for thinking that way about your idea and vision. God gave you that idea, he didn’t give it to your friends so how did you think they would understand it.
Other people may not get it and that’s okay trust what the lord has put in your heart, trust your vision and know that it would yield Fruits for you.
Look at Tyler perry for example, he made history by being the very first black american to own a major film studio. A black man, do you know the negative Nancy’s he came across ?
People that said to him, you're a black man you could never do that or you could build one but it could never be a big deal. What if he allowed those fears get to him? He would have never built this studio that we are all celebrating today. For the record, Perry’s lot at 330 acres with 12 sound stages is bigger than Disney, Warner Bros. and Paramount’s studios in Burbank, California, combined.
Some many of us have had great ideas but we keep telling it to the wrong people and they constantly keep killing your dreams by speaking fear into it.
(This is how I be starring at all the people trying to speak fears into my dreams)
• Learn to identify a negative Nancy,but if you’re the negative Nancy try to encourage your friends or whoever it is by saying I don’t know how you intend to do that but I hope it works out well for you.
• Block out the negativity.
• Change your circle if necessary and pray to God for guidance.
Its always impossible until YOU do it✨
LOVE FANNIE 🦋
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Sorry for the delay but WIX has broken my heart in several ways, so the next time you’d hear from me it would be from a different website.